Ever find yourself in an argument with someone? Me, too! A tool that I find particularly useful is breathing. Yep, I said breathing. Breathe slowly and deeply a few times when you notice a conversation is beginning to get intense. Then, throughout the discussion continue to consciously slow your breathing. Deep breathing helps get much needed oxygen to your brain which in turn can help you think more clearly and be less reactionary. It can also help you relax and perhaps ward off the fight or flight response. Remind yourself as you breathe that you do not need to be in fight or flight mode. Yes, this may be an intense moment in your life but not anything that is truly attacking your very existence.